Try not to take it personally if they withdraw periodically or get upset at something you say
For many people, infertility is a true life crisis. The longer it goes on, the worse it gets. They can get very sensitive about what people say and how they say it. The best way to clear the air is just to ask “Did I do something to upset you?” and give them the opportunity to say what’s going on.
Your friend or family member will get through this tough time. They won’t be trapped in unhappiness forever. They may be bristly, but if you approach them gently and with compassion, you can help to ease their pain.
Kim Kluger-Bell, LMFT
Kim Kluger-Bell is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She consults with major fertility clinics nationwide and provides counseling and assessments for egg donors, gestational carriers and patients using these procedures. She is the author of Unspeakable Losses: Healing from Miscarriage, Infertility and Abortion, as well as a series of books for donor conceived children entitled The Pea That Was Me and a surrogacy series called The Very Kind Koala.
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